I Abhore Drama or the Crazy Ex
Yesterday, I became enmeshed in an overly dramatic situation involving an ex. A mutual friend told me that one of the exes was upset about something that I had put in my blog. I was asked to take down what the ex thought was overly revealing. This really rankled me for a few reasons:
- First and foremost I was NOT even referring to the offended person. However, just because “the shoe fits” does not mean that it belongs to you. I suppose we all have a bit of narcissistic and paranoid tendencies, but there does exist more than one ex that my statements apply to.
- By and large, most of the people who read my blog do not know me. Therefore, the chance of them linking my statements to you (even if it had pertained to you in the first place, which it did not) are highly improbable.
- By involving others in this argument, you are creating unnecessary drama, bringing attention to my blog (since the mutual friend had not read it), and calling attention to the very situation that you are outraged that I had mentioned.
- Finally, I am loath to set a precedent that you can police what I have written.
I received a text last night after I had changed the text within my blog article, in an attempt to make it clear that it was NOT the offended ex to which I was referring. The text stated “How would you feel if I posted <such and such> in regards to you?” The answer is simple. “I would not appreciate you posting such a bold-face lie that could do damage to my professional and/or personal life. That would result in a libel suit with the text message you sent as a solid piece of evidence. “
So I have decided /not/ to drop my blog simply because an ex has an issue. But I have decided to hide all comments as I do not want exes posting responses publicly. However, any comments will be read and responded to individually as needed.
- Posted in: dating advice ♦ polyamory
